Real Virtual Sex?
As convenient as the drive-up window at your favourite restaurant, cybersex requires little effort which is often reduced to logging in and fighting with occasional booting. Booting is definitely worth fighting with for it suggests one's untied hands (and fingers!) in the process of banging away at one's computers for electronic satisfaction.
But would it be totally absurd if we referred to cybersex as to real sex? There are myriad opinions on the subject which very often imply polarities.
On the one hand, there are people who state that Internet sex is based on artificial perception of the real world and i.e. it equals everything but real sex. These people are casual observers who consider themselves impartial but in reality they can judge about virtual reality from a very very far distance because most likely they have experienced neither its advantages nor demerits. This doesn't mean, however, that the ones who are strongly against cybersex aren't at least partially right about its mostly artificial nature (rather artificial than real in their mild superficial view, to be more precise).
The other hand and its vital cyber-real importance implies people who go (literally) deeper into the essence of cybersex – mostly because they are UP to it much more than rarely. Their experience in virtual fun is hardly ever vicarious or based solely on observation, they take active part in it. On the one vitally important hand, it suggests their profound knowledge and competence regarding the phenomenon of cybersex, on the other equally essential hand – their experience may be lost in between their mixed up worlds.
The conclusion we all arrive at is that cybersex itself is not real – if we take the whole thing very literally. While emotions it brings are real indeed. How can it be possible? – you may ask. Oh well, it's all simple. A real child plays with an artificial toy – can't it suggest the fact that this artificial toy gives extremely real and natural positive emotions to the child?
Or – an example which is much closer to Internet reality – when you play an exciting computer game and enjoy controlling a virtual person, - don't you feel the way your 'hero' feels when fights with his enemies or saves the world? You sure do – you are very frightened when unexpectedly attacked by someone or triumphant when have finally reached your virtual goal.
The situation is easily explainable. Virtual reality will never become real, and we will never totally lose our characteristics of human beings. It means that when these two polarities – real plain us and our delicious virtual fantasy start having a certain-term affair, we establish a quite controversial but very strong emotional contact with the world of our fantasy.
This contact may bring some real exciting emotions and even satisfaction – both physical and spiritual. However, it may be dangerous too, for our continuous and excessively eager perception of Internet sex as something purely real may result in purely dangerous outcome i.e. cybersex addiction. The latter turns one into a cyber robot who spends most of his time in a chat room looking trying all possible ways of cyber fun using an endless amount of hardly ever childish toys. They do bring real emotions, but the price you'll pay for them may turn out just too high and undesirably disappointing in the long run.
It doesn't mean, however, that virtual sex is the worst thing that could possibly ever be done by the sinful you. It's just that you should get real as soon as possible if you still have an irresistible desire to try this horizon out. Otherwise you'll have to pack your things and move to the cold and empty most of the time virtual world.